Idiots who don't understand the campaign

I just can't believe it - The number of idiots Singapore has!!

Train down to Orchard yesterday as would be spending more than 6 hours there.

Usually I would prefer to push the stroller up the escalator. But now that I'm pregnant, I'd not want to strain myself. So as the campaign puts it across, people who needs it more - elderly, wheelchair passengers and those with strollers- to use the lift. Then what happens when I'm there waiting for the lift? Bloody assholes who are able-bodied people made their way to the lift as well and actually went into the lift while I had the right of way. And I had to wait for the next lift.

Well, I'm a person who will speak my mind. I spoke so loudly to my girl before the lift door closes. "I just don't understand why some people are so lazy to use the escalators when WE - the people being encouraged to use lifts had to wait for the next lift."One guy was with me, well it's justifiable that he uses the lift coz' he was dragging a bag and was holding onto a garment bag and another file in his hand (looked like lawyer to me). He smiled at me when he heard what I said. And mind you he was a gentleman. He held onto the lift door for me; let me get in. And the lift buttons was so his side; held the button for me to get out. Good people deserves credit, I thanked him for his help and as usual would ask girl to thank whoever holds the door for us. Honestly speaking, I think it's the good SIA culture we have when we underwent training. We greeted everyone Good morning; afternoon etc.. and thanked people when they hold the door for us; and we hold the doors for people. Sometimes, it teaches us initiatives when we see people who needs help eg. ladies pushing strollers struggling to carry stroller up/down the steps. And you see many men walking about not helping. So I must thank SIA for this culture that was instilled in me since.

But then again, think of it. I better not say I was an SIA girl- coz' I speak my mind if I'm rather pissed.

Don't be mistaken, I'm not saying that the lifts can only be utilised by the people who needs it more. Ordinary people can use it too, but give way to those who needs it more.

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Still harping on the lift issue...

In the evening was in the lift with girl (without stroller) in Plaza Singapura. Girl likes to press the button for people. So when we got in, there was this young couple with their maid and infant in stroller in it. The lift went up to the 6th floor, girl held onto the lift door. What shocked me was the lack of gentleman-ness that father has!! I wouldn't have mind if the mother and maid pushed the infant out. But that guy saw her holding onto the lift (and mind you, it was a little girl) walked out as if he deserved it. And never attempt to hold on the door.

Then the " possessed spirit" suddenly came into my body and I said "Thank you Athena for holding onto the door. It's very nice and kind of you but some people just don't appreciate it by holding the door for a small little girl. " Yup! That caught the attention of the young couple but they scared shit and walked away.

Am I being too much? I think I've mentioned about some nice people I've met along the way. But majority of Singaporeans are selfish people, they don't want to give but expect to take. And how they are suppose to show their children manners? I don't know........maybe that's why my girl tends to hear alot of "speeches" from me when I teach her the value of life. Maybe that's why I tell people that bringing up a child is not easy, but to them they find it easy.

Let me share with you what I've seen in Prague. Everytime I get onto a train, I observe what the Czechs did. An old woman or someone who needs the seat more can get to choose where she wants to sit. Why? It's not that there are designated seats in the trains. But once a person walks in You observe...... at least 5 people would stand up to give up their seats. So, can I say that the person has a choice to choose where he/she wants to sit. And not only that, I observed a 60+ standing up to give up her seat to a 70+ man. Should we feel ashamed? Singaporeans all only pretend to fall asleep in the train. Even now, they see a pregnant lady (me) they don't automatically stand up to give up their seat. Once, an old man even stood up to give in to me but I thanked and declined his offer saying that he needs it more than me. I hope I have put those people sitting around him to shame. Sad to say.... they are all so thick-skinned. By then I'm almost reaching my station.

It's nice when she's yakking... well sometimes

I kindda enjoy it when she's at the age where she's yakking away. Don't be mistaken, I do enjoy it when she was a little baby and growing up in the months thereafter.

Over the weekend, she wanted to eat Kueh Tu-tu (was quite surprised she liked the peanut filling. And she only first tasted it on Wednesday). We were at Rivervale Mall when she kept pestering me to buy her. Of course the only way to make her finish her dinner faster was to use this tactic "finish your food faster, auntie is closing stall soon..." In no time, she finished and we all quickened our speed towards the escalator.

As I took out my wallet, she told me "mummy, I have money; I pay." She digged my bag for her little purse and took out $2(remembering that I took out a purple note myself). I assured her that I'll pay but she kept insisting. The auntie found it amusing..

And when I told her that I'll let her skip school on Tuesday to bring her to meet Pooh, she told me "mummy, I have money. I bring my money and we go gai-gai okay? You no need to bring your $." I can't believe she thinks her $5.50 is so high and mighty. But then again, you're talking about a child who doesn't know the value of money.

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On Sunday, she was playing her Play-Doh when she suddenly called out "Aricia" (hubby actually told her this name before I told him about Alethea). I turned around and asked her "who are you calling?"
A : 妹妹 (younger sister) lor..
M : 妹妹's name is Aricia? You like this name for 妹妹?
A : Yes (pausing for some time)...........Mummy what Aricia means
M : 妹妹's name lor...
A : I say what Aricia means
M : It means Princess
A : (eyes opened bigger; looked at me; stopped playing) No, no princess. I princess!

This morning, as I was getting her ready for school. I asked
M : So you like 妹妹's name to be Aricia or Alethea
A : I like A-th-lea (mispronouncing the name)
M : Why? You liked Aricia what??
A : No, I like A-th-lea
M : 妹妹 is princess what..........
A : No! I want to be princess (about to cry)
A : Mummy, what A-th-lea means?
M : It's even better than princess, it means Goddess
A : Huh? Monster? I like it. 妹妹 A-th-lea

:) lol

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I think she got this habit from me. Usually when I'm nagging at her, I'll use this sentence "how many times do you want mummy to ....... you?"
So now, when she's talking to me and I'm not answering her. She gets frustrated; walks infront of me and speaks louder
"Mummy, how many times must I talk to you? I talk to you so many times you never answer me?"

or
When she asks me something and I don't answer her yes but a "umm". She'll get frustrated and say "mummy, don't say umm; say Yes!" I'll repeat the same thing and she'll get even more aggitated.

Haha! It's really funny to see her looks sometimes.

Can't believe she actually fell asleep..

I can't believe that my girl simple fell asleep on the floor; under the chair I'm sitting; holding onto the waffle she was eating (10 minutes ago).

A cute sight. Got up hoping to grab my camera, but she awoke.

Alas! Washed her hands and mouth and now she's back in her baby cot.

Overheard this

Was on the escalator in Parkway Parade when I overheard this conversation between a mom and her teenage daughter.
Mother : How is it that you know what new bags Espirit sells? You go there everyday after school is it?
Daught : No.........I tell you... It's because you sent me to an ah-lian school, where all the girls will carry the ah-lian bags
Mother : Daddy, daddy (talking to husband). Why did you send your daughter to an ah-lian school

It was rude of me, but I actually was giggling when the daughter made that original comment. Now I'm just wondering which ah-lian school is it? And if it's my old school.
And then I start wondering if my girl will argue back with me next time too!

Dinner at Paramount

It was really sweet of my ex-colleagues to ask me out for a dinner date.

Without hesitation, I asked my mom if she was able to help me babysit my girl for that few hours.

Dinner was so-so only. Although it's under the Tung Lok group, the food in Nobel House tastes much better. Apart from that, it's the company that matters alot. As usual, we were laughing our hearts out at conversations, jokes and gossips. (well, what can we say?? Corp Comms people are very noisy) Sure makes me feel "in" despite leaving the company almost a year ago.

Not forgetting a snapshot of the people who went.


Front: Jasmine, Me, Caroline, Connie, Jean aka lao-da
Back : Mark (ex-staff left before I joined)

Thank you guys once again. Hope we'll have a chance to meet before I pop.

The brain racking task - choosing names / Hubby thought of a name- yippee!

I had been thinking of names for my baby2 since I got to know the gender weeks ago.

As first born's name is of Greek origin; good meaning and uncommon - I thought of continuing to choose Greek Goddesses names. My friend, Marcus did ask me if I'm going to choose a name that starts with the letter "A" again. I said "maybe it's a good idea to find a Greek goddess with the letter "Z" - there's a beginning and there's an ending."

But no Greek Goddesses names starts with "Z", except for "Zeus" Ζευς, which is a male name. But then again, son will be laughed at for such names. I want an uncommon but not to be teased at names. Also a name which is easy to pronounce. Even now, I get so frustrated when a simple name like Athena Αθηνά (pronounced as a-THEE-nuh) for my girl have me correcting people when they call her a-t-nah or worst still - my hubby's friend totally changed her name to as-ti-nah. Argh!!

When you mention about Greek Goddesses, there are so many including agriculture, wine etc... Huh??

Then it came down to :
1) Aphrodite : Greek Goddess of Love and Beauty. According to The Odyssey she was the daughter of Zeus and Dione, other myths speak of her as springing from the blood of Uranus after Cronus castrated him, and floating on the sea to Greece, where she was met by the Three Graces (who will be discussed later). The latter is the more accepted version. Personally I dislike her because she is exceedingly vain and thinks only of herself. I like to laugh at her eternal beauty and loveliness because she was a great grandmother of another God, Dionysus (who she also had a child by). She was married to Hephaestus, the Smith God, but she lusted after Ares, the much disliked God of War. She was also the patron Goddess of Prostitutes. - (huh?? Prostitute??)
2) Alethea : Goddess of Truth. She was born of Zeus and Apollo's nurse.
3) Artemis : Goddess of the Hunt. She had 50 hounds and 50 Dreiads (wood nymphs) and a quiver full of painless silver arrows. She was the daughter of Zeus and Leto as well as being last of the Three Maiden Goddesses. She was also a part of the Triple Goddess. The Triple Goddess was the Moon in three forms. Artemis didn't carry the moon across the sky, yet she was still known as the moon. Although she was stunningly beautiful, she was very cold and she swore never to marry. She had only one love, a hunter named Orion (and even that's debatable). She was the Protector of Young Women. She was incredibly cool (coming from a young woman).

I like Alethea Αληθεια(uh-LEE-thee-uh) the most. I think Aphrodite and Artemis is too... more suitable for beauty salons' name.

Never mind, still have time to go through the names.

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Last night hubby came back and suggested this name for our baby2 - Aricia(pronounced as AH-ree-shah)

Aricia : Princess of the royal blood of Athens

I thought it's quite nice name. And she may not be using a Goddess name but since there's a 老大- her elder sister who's a Goddess to protect her. Why not?? I only hope that when we confirm this name, nobody calls her "Alicia". Promise you, I'll start whacking that person up!

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This is what I have to do everyday... cleaning up after her

Girl took a nap in her room while I am on the laptop.

Yup! She felt hot in the morning, so decided to let her rest at home. I think it's the transition in weather that caused her fever. Anyway, at this time now, 4hrs later I'm glad there's no more fever. But I am going to have one soon....
Turned to look at her, and saw all her toys placed nicely infront of her. The display notch is left empty. Sigh............. I gotta tidy the place for her.Very tiring to keep up after her.

Our short trip

We just got back from our short trip to Bali on Sunday, after spending three nights there.

Weather was hot, the three of us (who are afraid) of heat turned lobster red on our cheeks. And we had 2 (or 3 if time permitting) showers a day, Athena asked me "mummy, why do you always wash my hair?" "Very dusty outside. I must wash you clean before we sleep." My small clothes scrub follows me wherever I go. And short trip it may be, it still helps alot!

We R & R on the day we arrived, went to Kuta beach. We didn't go into the waters, we didn't even go close to the shore.. Yup! the 3 of us feels yucky with our feet and shoes filled with sand. Had to go over to McDonalds to clean our feet. Haha! And I had to made sure that she don't put her fingers in her mouth.
2nd day - hired a van to bring us to a few places. We had a long day and the heat made us even more weary. What made the trip more educational for Athena is the rice fields that we've been passing through for most part of the journey. And it's also a good time for me to explain to her the meaning of a Tang Poem that she's just learnt in school. Plus, we have to let her know how fortunate she is to be born in Singapore; not in Bali hawking postcards and deprived of schooling.
3rd day - R & R for the first half of the day until 4pm, before we left for Uluwatu for the temple and to watch the Kecak & Fire Dance. We had a seafood dinner at Jimbaran (by the seaside). Hubby ordered lobster for me. YUMMY... I like their chilli, sedap!
4th day - depart for home.
Click for photos here (My photos aren't as nice as taken by Yvonne's husband. But Yvonne I welcome comments on how to improve on my photography)
Video: Kecak & Fire Dance 1
Video: Kecak & Fire Dance 2

Yummy..

They say pregnant women have funny cravings, and I totally agree!

I used to love fish when I was preggie with Athena. Now I hate fish and usually have no appetite for food. (I hardly take breaks in between my 3 meals now)

But not with this noodle from a stall at Blk 201 Tampines, a 5 minute walk from mom's place!

I've been practically going crazy with this noodle. The gravy is nice and the homemade chilli is nice. Now, the auntie sees me - she knows "lots of gravy and lots of chilli". I can have it 3 times a week.

Picture: Shredded chicken noodle. They have chicken cutlet; pork cutlet; fish cutlet; chicken feet and wanton

Post- punishment,the mummy went soft on girl

If I said I was a harsh mummy, nobody will believe me. Coz' I go soft very fast too!


Girl having her fun at Hundred Acres Wood Carnival in Compass Point

Well, the June holidays will mean that I'm going to bring her out from school to gai-gai.

The wild hare (me) went ballistic

This evening is so memorable!

The rest of the day on 25th May is supposed to be a peaceful one, having the intention of getting a small cake for my girl to celebrate her turning 41 months old, but it had to end in a different note (no pun intended)

Infact it was at her music lesson which made me so mad. I don't know for what reason she didn't do or want to participate in anything today. Had to tell her to do so alot of times before she'll do it. By then the song ends.. she only did two songs. I simply don't understand what the heck she wanted. If she had wanted to get my attention - oh well she did for the next 2hrs +. I spoke to her nicely so many times to sing and do what she has to do, she just refused and stared at me. Gave her lots of chances, asked her if she wanted to go home now.
A : No
M : No. Then sing. If not we're going home
A : No I dowan to go home
M : Then sing
I can't remember how many times I repeated these sentences with her.
Mom came down to talk to her,was also mad with her performance. She coaxed her to do it etc..even offering to do it with her.
That stubborn girl still refuse.
At that point, I just stood up while the class in still on. Walked to keep the stools and told Peggy that I had to leave the classroom. I think Peggy saw my face turning black, and even said "cool down". Girl saw the look on my face & started brawling "I want mummy. I want mummy.." -which she always does when she gets punished from me. I walked back to pull girl by her hand (which mom told me not to hold her hand in that way coz' it'll break her arms etc..), at that time I just wished I can break her arms. I had that much anger in me. I walked out of the class on my own while girl was still crying. I don't know if my mom felt embarrassed at that moment, but I was. It was definitely the first time a mother walked out of Peggy's class - or I may be the first in the whole of Yamaha school to walk out of a class.
I don't think I can blame my raging pregnant hormones for my behaviour at that time.
Wait a minute!! Isn't a music lesson something to be enjoyed and not forced? Yes, I know. But I know my girl can do it; she just didn't want to do it. Alot of times, I've seen some other kids also refusing to do anything in class but their mothers never responded the same way as I did. So, can I blame my raging hormones for that; or is it my expectation from her? My expectation, as always explained to my girl, is you spent the same amount of time doing something- so do it well rather than a slipshod job. Perhaps you- as the reader- & seeing things from a different perspective will feel that things have to be nurtured and not forced. I don't deny I agree that things have to be nurtured but it's the personality of my child which force me to do what I did/ or have been doing all these while.
Anyway, back to the scenerio. I couldn't take it but to whack her hands outside the ballet studio. Mom said "I know how angry you are now, I felt very angry also, this one.. pull her out and discipline her outside." Well, I didn't have to listen to her to know that I had to discipline her there and then; my head was wild and I couldn't help but to whack her hard and scold her in public. Didn't want to stay longer in TM anymore, since she wasn't obeying me, she gets no chance to have her gai-gai and play in ToysRUs. Mom wanted to come with her incase I kill her granddaughter, I said "no. I'll drive you back home and you're not coming with me."I didn't want anybody to interefere when I punished my child. What more, girl will know she has another pillar of support from the grandma, so whatever I've been whacking her for will go down the drain."I guess mom had no choice but to tell me to "go lightly". When I'm mad, I speak like a ballistic mad woman "don't worry, you won't get to see your grandchild tomorrow. I will kill her tonight."
Honestly speaking I was screaming my head off in the car and scolding her for her actions. All girl did was to cry "I want mummy...I want mummy..."hoping to gain some sympathy. But sorry - when you are dealing with an insane person, nothing works!
While screaming I was also afraid that I may lose my cool, concentration and judgement while driving - and choy! end up in an accident. So had to go slow in middle lane. That gives me a longer time to scream at her (and not forgetting a hoarse voice after that). I dunno.. I just gotta show her I MEAN BUSINESS today.

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THE DRAWBRIDGE(carpark) AT PUNGGOL :
In the car, she wanted me to hold her hand and help her down from her carseat. "No! One more sentence from you and it gives me another reason for me to whack you more."
At the carpark, she was still trying & hoping that I'll hold her hand (which gives her a sense of security). She kept asking me to hold her hand but I simply refused. Mad I may be, but I will not pose anything danger to her. I made sure there are no cars and walked alongside to ensure that no cars will come up suddenly. ( I remember I went tsk tsk in the case of a mother who was so mad with her son and walked across the road herself; leaving the son to cross the road. And the lady from a car quickly rushed out to carry the boy. I mean I've been mad too, I know the mother just can't think sensibly herself and just wished the son's dead. Many times I just wish I can break her arms; throw her down the building; throw her down from 3rd floor from where Yamaha is. All these will solve the heartpain) She was crying and asking me to hold her hand. Umm... people looked at us.

THE DUNGEON AT PUNGGOL
When I saw the wooden door ajar, hubby was home early. He came out to see us, but I told him to leave us alone as she's given me the ultimum and she's going to get a thrashing from me today. He walked back and the punishment starts. Brought out the trusty cane and beat her a few times.
Next punishment : the method mom used on me - kneel on the floor; pull her ears and chilli sauce (suppose to be chilli padi, but I dun have it) on her lips. Which made her cry even harder. She was crying for me; daddy which we ignored her.
I sat down and spoke to her. And she answered accordingly with 'yes & no.' At one point, I mentioned about how much I love her and bought her things she wanted and everytime I see something she likes; I'll buy it for her eg. her favourite vegetable snacks. And then she said "mummy that day I go Botanical Gardens you buy for me vegetable snacks. You put alot of things in my schoolbag, I eat and eat." Dunno to say I was angry with her or what.. here I am telling her off; here she is conversing with me while pulling her ears. "mummy bought you so many things. Then a simple request- by asking you to listen to me, you can't do it."
She knelt at the corner for an hour plus until I put her small plate with two slices of bread and water for her to drink (as the 2 of us did not have dinner at all). She finished the bread; rushed to put the plate in the sink; ran back to the corner and went into her punishment pose. I don't know to laugh at her or what.. Let her continue the post for the next 15 minutes until I told her to come to where we are. At this time, she dare not ask for daddy's sympathy. She didn't pretend to cry.
Come 10+pm, I told her to follow me to her room and brought her music bag with me. Obediently, she did everything so well. See, what I mean??

Grandfather
At dunno what time dad call to ask about Athena when she was still kneeling down in the 'Punishment Corner'.
M: Punishment
Him: Call her to the phone
M: No.
Him: Is this how you discipline your child? (slams down the phone)

I was F@#*-ing mad at him for saying that to me. The least I want is to leave me to discipline the child without any interference from anybody. Which explains why I didn't want mom to come over. Coz'girl will know that she can rely on someone; grandma's heart goes soft; go forward to hug her; - then what is the lesson learnt??
I was prepared to quarrel with him or anyone who steps in (yes! even if it means they're my in-laws). And I heard too the next day (26th) that brother and grandpa was heart-pained.

Post punishment
Although I threaten to kill her grandchild, I didn't do it. Well, at least I didn't want to end up the rest of my life in guilt and in jail. Joke aside, I didn't have the heart to do it. Infact, although I was really mad at her. The cane slashes were done when she had her cardigan on. Then I pulled down her cardigan and let her kneel in that hot corner.
How should I phrase it? Any mothers would agree with me that in a fit of anger- harsh words; vulgarities all come out from the mouth. But then we were the ones who shared that close bond with the child for 9 whole months, any beatings I gave her I felt the pain myself. It is heart-breaking for me to do that. I broke down and cried in the kitchen while cooking my instant noodles-hubby saw my teary eyes.

Girl is fighting for attention??

I have noticed that girl has been sticking to me like a leech recently. She has been asking me to do this and that for her; refuses any help from anybody. And even when mom stays overnight, she'll refuse to sleep with her. She always wants me to sleep next to her and turn to her side and hug her, in turn she'll put her small arms around me too.

I think it's what they call 与兄弟姐妹战斗为注意 in teochew.

How long would this last? Even fighting for my attention when baby2 is a toddler? Frankly speaking it'll be hard on me. But I thought girl was so prepared to be an elder sister coz now she keeps telling us to call her 姐姐. I may be wrong, I may end up being busy tearing them apart from fighting for my attention.

1) Baby is very active-like her sister 2) Conversation with hubby

I am not sure if I had felt Athena moving in me at 20 weeks, but I felt baby2 punching me or kicking me. I get that "thump thump thump"feeling very often now.
I've got another potential black belt TKD master.
Athena was very active when she was in me, she'll kick; punch; move alot. I suffered alot of abuses from her and now from her sister too!
But having said so, I'm glad I felt the baby's movement, so at least I know baby is enjoying herself.

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They were showing some things on pregnancy on Discovery channel two days ago. Narrator suggested to listen to music (as if we all don't know), then hubby asked me "you got listen to music for baby or not?"
M: Mainly it's Athena's music, when I play for Athena baby listen lor. Once in a while will pop baby's CD lor..

H: Then got talk to baby or not?
M: (looked at him)Huh? Last time with Athena - yes lah coz' nobody around to take care of mah.. Now U know I got my hands full with that girl, I dun talk much to this baby. And probably baby will listen to "Athena why are you so naughty" from me.
H: (laughed at the remark, turned to ask daughter) Athena next time mei-mei come out, first thing she'll ask you is "Athena why are you so naughty?"
A: (girl who is struggling and trying to concentrate on her new yoga pose) Huh......

When told him about gender yesterday.
H: U think our girl will be as pretty and cute as Athena? Will look like her
M: Hopefully.. (in my heart, hope she has nice eyelashes and tall like her sister)
H: Wonder how's the personality like? So coward like Athena?
M: Hopefully not. But I won't be surprised if this little dog is able to protect her elder sister like Joseph protects his elder brother Jeremy.
H: But baby won't feel upset about wearing old clothes meh??
M: Why should she feel so? Don't tell me Athena's clothes will only be worn by her and then thrown away? Some ppl like same gender so can pass down clothes. And this is a good timing to teach Athena about sharing.
H: Like so poor thing... And then Athena already went to so many countries, next time it'll be harder for us to travel with 2 kids. This baby will travel lesser countries than Athena
M: Maybe yes for now coz they're both generally still young but maybe in a year or so, Athena would be older and probably abit more sensible. She can take care of herself while we watch over her and take care of baby. She can help also..

Updates

Haven't been updating so will do a quick one.

Monday
The crazy girl today said she wanted to go to school, when I had the intention of bringing her to the library. Anyway, since she hardly portray such eagerness to attend school; I decided to pat her buttocks to school. She went in quite late though and just missed her favourite Chinese class.
Meanwhile, I had to return her library books and borrowed more books for her - which I thought she'll be happy but she was crying for a particular "Star" book that she likes.

Tuesday
Was getting a little anxious as the clock hands tick by, as I needed to bring her in to school and then drive down to Orchard for my gynae appointment, but girl was taking her own sweet time. I was telling her "hurry up, hurry up Athena" She didn't want to go to school, and said she wanted to follow me to see Dr Teoh "because I like Dr Teoh". Decided to bring her along and then bring her for a movie. But since I'm going to stay long in Orchard, I'll prefer to train down. So off we went to Mt E. She was happy to see him and all the aunties. I asked Wee Chee about the Shanghainese girl, if she had given birth, as I haven't seen her for a long time. But she told me a sad news. She gave birth in the clinic at 20 weeks, she came to see him about her severe abdominal pain and they checked - baby was at her vagina already. All she did was one push and the baby came out. But sadly, at 20 weeks there is no way doctors can save a baby coz'they are still dependent on the mummy. "Her mother cried; grandmother cried like crazy", I felt sad for her. Becoz' everytime the granny sees Athena, she loves to play with her. She was waiting for the day to carry her own grandson. But God had to play a trick on them; the world just collapsed on them in one second. And I heard too she's an IVF case. Why? Why is it some people who can have babies chose to abort their children. And why some wants to have children badly just can't have one?

Here's a shot of her and Dr Teoh

Today I found out the gender of baby2. She's going to be a sweet little girl. However I must admit it was quite hard to see the genital area and all they could say was "should be a girl" and not ''it's a girl".
Something that made me happy is that I didn't put on weight : My weight 60.2kg ( I lost 0.3kg) but baby gained weight. Haha! Can I put on less than 10kg for this pregnancy?? I hope so.

After the appointment, we had our lunch at My Mum's Cuisine. I remember that place - I went there just after my last appointment with my gynae years ago (when he told me he had to induce birth soon). I told myself I better eat all the good food before I start my confinement. I ordered lots of food.
She wanted to go into ELC (again)- she likes the train set there. Then I witnessed something funny.

Two kids were playing alone without adult supervision. A was holding a toy, B wanted to snatch toy away , A struggled but lost, B got the toy, A snatch back, fight ensued, B try to snatch back, A pushed B down and whacked B hard like gangster. I went over and spoke loudly "hey. No no fighting. "The sales assistant heard me and carried the victim. A stood up and started crying loud -acting like a victim- while B kept quiet. Mother rushed in.
And you know what A is a girl, B is a boy.
Wah... very stylo mailo. If only my girl can fight.
When I told the SA and hubby the incident, I giggle at the thoughts that a boy got bullied. They found it amusing too!

Girl dozed off so I train down to Dhoby Ghaut. Checked out the timing of Over The Hedge and bought the tickets.

At Spotlight: she put on this cute hairband. And I managed to get a shot before my camera went low on battery. Pity I couldn't take a picture of us together with me & her in the cute hairband.

Such perfect timing, the show ended and hubby was already reaching DGhaut. We had our dinner; walked around a little and then head for home.

Wednesday
Had to send car for servicing today. Hubby decided not to go to work today and decided to go out with me. Girl found it strange that daddy didn't work and asked "mummy, why today daddy and mummy bring me to school?" "Daddy is always working and never send you to school. So today he wants to send you to school." "Ohhh.........(pauses awhile and then started shouting to daddy) Daddy my school is in Tampines, you know the way?" We found it funny and laughed at her comment.
Met my ex-colleagues for lunch. Wau.... I realised now they really have to rush through lunch - coz' my ex company is very particular about punctuality. I didn't want to hold them back and told them to go off when they need to.
Wanted to bring girl home as we'll be collecting our car soon. Brother called to ask to borrow girl as Dr Lori wanted to see her. Dr Lori is a doctor in the hospital in Ohio, where brother was on training for a month or two last October. She's here in Singapore for a seminar which she's conducting. So brother played host to them. He and mom brought her home to us.

Mom, Dr Lori, her daughter-Heather (don't they look alike?)
Impish girl had to run about when they want to snap a photo together

Wonder what is girl up to? Sticking her head out.

Baby2's gender & all my rambling tots

I forgot that today's scan is going to be thorough one for defects etc..

Of course before the scan, I had to sign an undertaking that says scan result is not 100% accurate. I can't remember if I had to sign something years ago. (Anyway, I'm so forgetful. Can't even remember current things.. blame it on pregnancy.Keke!)

Athena was well-behaved and stood there like a goon-goon kid, staring at the screen. Dr Teoh came in and played with her; sat her on his lap while he told her "that's the head; the hand.....did you see it?" Athena just nodded her head.I wonder if she knew what she was looking at..all she knew is it's her di-di. Then they try to see the genital area. Baby2's very mischievous, I think baby2 is going to be like Athena. Baby2 kept crossing the leg; they decided to go back again some time later; went back baby2 legs was opening but then closed back again. So they merely caught a glimpse. Then Dr Teoh needed to do the scan himself; he did what he needed to do and then decided to scan the genital area again.
"Should be a ......


First thing I did was to turn to look at girl(who was holding my hand) and said "Athena you were wrong. It's not di-di, it's mei-mei." Then that girl became so defensive or is it forgetful said "I told you it's mei-mei.." Duh? They must have thought I was disappointed, coz' they said "girl is good.." And even gynae told me he share good relations with his daughter than with his son. Umm... they really think I'm disappointed.
Was I?
No, on the contrary although hubby and myself wanted a boy to complete a family and have a 好 word, I was more than happy to have a girl. Coz' I think girls are cute; can wear her sister's pretty dresses; and have more 爱心. Am I worried that they will stick to their daddy more since girls tend to stick to daddy? No, not the lest worried... if I look on the brighter side - can get them off me. Hehe!
Now gotta start thinking of girl's name. If it was a boy, we would have decided on 'Timothy' since we both like this name. But before I really start calling my baby, I'll get a confirmation from my gynae she's going to be a cute little girl. Er... maybe this baby's little willy is small??

This is a picture of my girl and my funny gynae - Dr Teoh

Had always been a bear lover - yup! I've always loved Pooh, Friends Forever bear and Tatty bear. Just don't ask me why I love bears.

Anyway, did a 100-acre wood quiz test and was hoping to say that I have the character of Pooh. But no- it had to be Kanga. Umm... maybe it's suggesting that Athena is Little Roo


Take the 100 Acre Personality Quiz!

Amazing Race 9

I thought I had missed the final episode of Amazing Race 9, but was I glad that it was a 2hr telecast from 2200hrs-0000hrs. I watched the second half of the race.
At the end of it, I was happy that BJ & Tyler (known as the Hippies)won the race. Lucky for them, although they came last twice but they were the non-elimination round - so they survived. And many episodes we see them jumping around; enjoying themselves; having good relations with other team players.
The brainy ones (BJ & Tyler who graduated from Harvard & Stanford) despite their looks triumph over the masculine ones. So who say masculine are good??

Catches tune very fast

All the while I knew that my girl catches tune to songs very fast, never did I expect just listening a few times she could remember it so well.
Just the other day, I heard her humming to herself when she was doing some colouring. I went up closer and after some time I realised it was : Onara 오나라 theme song from 大长今- the Korean drama that is showing on ChU now.

Hubby and myself were quite interested in this show, so we turned it on every night(Infact we missed alot of earlier episodes & only started watching in mid-April ). Girl who is still sleeping with us, either refuses to sleep or can't sleep with TV on, would watch it with us. Then come 10pm, when the trailer starts, she'll excitedly scream "It's hey ah hey ah..." 'Hey ah, hey ah' is her interpretation of this show. And why?? -->
End of the show, she'll sing to the song. Nobody can make up what's the lyrics coz' it's in Korean but she'll sing "hey ah, hey ah. Pai ya pai ya..." And some time during the song its "leh...la...leh la". I think she heard some words sounding the same. Haha!
But I'm so proud of her, she catches tune fast and ahem.. is not tone deaf.

The most dreaded thing..

The most dreaded thing I want - is to pass my bug to my girl.
I haven't been feeling well since Saturday and true enough on Monday it got worse. Only yesterday I decided to bring my girl to her PD before I go back to the doctor myself. PD confirmed that I've passed it to her. Darn! I slept in different rooms from them for 2 nights, but somehow still .... I think it's the day time contact with her.
Nevertheless, it's really heartening to know that my girl showed so much concern for me when I told her I was not feeling well on Saturday. She chided me "you never wash your hands; you fall sick. Got bacteria. Quickly mummy go wash your hands." Then when I was feeling achy behind, I was trying to 'beat my back', that girl went behind me and said "mummy, I massage for you" and gave me a hard whack. *cough cough* She almost killed me.
Then on Monday night, she kept insisting on sleeping with me although I already told her "no". In the end, I thought, anyway she's already got the bug from me..so doesn't matter.
A big re-shufflement between hubby and me. He slept in her room; while girl and me have the big bed to ourselves. I told her that "mummy can't sleep in aircon room. And you'll feel hot", she was very understanding and said "tomorrow you ok, you turn on aircon. Today you sick sick, you sleep with fan. Athena no hot." Poor girl.... she kept turning towards me in the night and she was perspiring..

Caught in action

Sometimes it is really difficult to capture natural shots of my girl, coz' she'll do silly things when she sees me holding the camera.

Today, was able to sneak a few shots of her until she realised I was there. Good thing she didn't make monkey faces or pout her lips.

My girl sang for me

This is the song Ms Chan taught the little children. And she sang for me today, even obliging to sing again for me to record it down.

Click here. Very sweet isn't it??

My girlfriend, Audrey, was nice to send me an sms in the late evening to wish me Happy Mother's Day, although I was giggling away. But it was nice of her.
Which comes to remind me of my ungrateful husband.
Earlier in the day, he asked what's the date today at NTUC Supermarket. I answered "14th, and it's Mother's Day. You never wish me."
His reply was "you are not my mother what??"
"Well, I'm your daughter's mother."
"Then ask Athena to wish you. A-the-na......"
At that moment, I wish I could make a run for the kitchen department and take a knife and re-enact the Psycho murder scene *ding ding ding ding*

Our Mother's Day card this year

I just love making cards since young. Mom has a collection of cards that I make for her every birthdays, Mother's Day and I think one or two Christmas cards.
Last year, I could not find the time to make her one. So this year decided to squeeze in a little time here and there

In the front of the card are some phrases printed on a hard paper and pasted a vellum over it.

Phrases which I found very meaningful.

~ 母爱 ~
没有爱，象一个母亲的爱一样，
没有更强债券究竟 ...
象来自上帝的宝贵的债券一样，
跟一个母亲，当她生孩子的时候。

一个母亲的爱永远是强的，
永不有所有时期之久改变 ...
以及当她的孩子最大限度地需要她的时候，
一个母亲的爱将发光。

上帝保佑这些特别的母亲，
上帝保佑他们每一个 ...
对所有眼泪和悲叹，
以及对特别的工作他们做了。


当她的日究竟经过的时候，
一个母亲的爱情生活上 ...
通过很多一代，
带着上帝的祝福在每一个上。

为我们的母亲是感谢的，
用于他们对一种更高的爱的爱 ...
从力量上帝给，
以及力量从向上上

Inside the card, I managed to find an illustration of a mother with 3 kids, and just nice - 1 boy, 2 girls. Printed on vellum paper (very difficult to print, jammed the printer twice).

It's a simple card but mom will like it whether it's handmade or purchased off the shelf.

Mother's Day

What is Mother's Day to me? Does it hold any meaning to me?

Nah... my girl is still too young to understand this. I wonder if she'll ever do the little things to make my day on the second Sunday of May every year when she's older?

Time being, I'll be happy if she don't drive me up the wall with her nonsense behaviour and tantrums.

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Origins of Mother's Day

There are two theories as to the origins of Mother's day.

One is traced back to the Ancient Greeks where Dhea, the mother of all gods and goddesses was honoured once a year. In Rome, the mother godess was known as Cybele and she was celebrated for three days. The Church later adopted this practice to celebrate Mary, the mother of God.

Another origin can be traced back to Ancient Egypt where the goddess Iris was celebrated once a year. She was supposed to represent the ideal Engyptian wife and mother

Eventually, in UK, 'Mother's Day' was celebrating on the 7th Sunday of Lent. Families would reunite over a special dinner.

Today, mother's day is traditionally celebrated in May, but on different days depending on the country. Some people wear a red carnation on this day, or a white one if their mother has died.

Mother's Day dinner with in-law and family

Today we met up with my in-law and family for Mother's Day dinner. We were headed for Singapura Restaurant @ Selegie Road - which serves Hockchew food. In-laws and hubby are Hockchews.
We left the home slightly earlier at 5pm.

Girl talking to Ah-yi on the phone. Very stylo mailo hor??

Athena on kiddy ride. She was so funny acting like a mummy to her bear bear, sneaking to open her bag to kiss her bear once-in-a-while.

We parked at Cathy Cineleisure and walked down to Plaza Singapura. Didn't walk much by the time that girl was hopping and junping around in the mall, we had to leave the place. Not without first stopping at LJS - I was quite tired from walking.
Was not my usual self as I think I'm coming down with the flu bug. I just don't feel the same.

Freaked out when we were walking towards the venue- which is near to Oasis Holistic where I used to go for my free- Pilates class (subscription gift for Shape magazine). Told hubby "no way I'm walking back later".
Surprisingly, we were the first to arrive followed by in-law;Aveliane & family, and then Jasline & family.
I didn't eat much coz' food not what I liked.(anyway I was feeling rather queasy and uncomfortable - not forgetting that I just vomitted at home before I came out)
SIL ordered :
1) Fuzhou Cold Crab
2) Fragrance crispy duck
3) Red wine chicken soup
4) Fried liver with kailan
5) Fuzhou fishball soup (which only had 4 fishballs so all the 4 kids got the fishballs)
6) Dunno what marinated fish
7) Red wine kong-bak with the pao

But who cares when the first cold dish - Cold Crab came. I ate without caring that I just killed how many crabs the night before.
[*Gasp* I think history is repeating itself. I was always craving for crabs when I was preggie with girl. And then regretted it, coz' girl turned out too active.]
-> Red wine chicken is meant to be good during confinement but I just don't like the wine taste so had a small bite from hubby's chicken and gave it back to him.
-> Fish is nice, considering how I hate fish now, I actually ate the fish.
-> Fried liver with kailan : the flour and marination is nice. I simply hate liver but was told "good, must eat replenish blood" . I tried and yes, it is nice. But the more I looked as I cut the liver, I see it's liver and it freaks me out! It's no wonder mom says I'm a fussy eater and difficult to feed me. Now my girl is doing the same to me - retribution. After eating two bites I gave it to hubby.
Ps. Vampires - don't suck my blood ok? I have no blood for you to suck.

Mom-in-law and Johnny

Aveliane & family and Jackie

Aunty Jasline & Uncle Johnny

We left the restaurant about an hour plus later and went separate ways.
Okay, it's time for me to take my panadol now.. think the caffaine from Coke would have worn off by now.
Goodnight everyone!

Celebrating Mother's Day

After alot of booha here and there, we had to settle for our celebration on Friday in Kublai Khan instead of a Hawaiian BBQ on Sunday at Swissotel Merchant Court . Umm.. we haven't cancelled our reservations yet. Haha!

The main star of the night - trying to look cheery despite her giddiness

Mongolian horse greeting you at main entrance - Mongolia is often described as the "land of the horse"

Buffet spread of International, local and Mongolian BBQ

Brother was told by the guy who brought us in that girl dines free. He used his belted waist as a guide - huh?
I didn't take any starch but filled my stomach silly with chilli crabs. I can't remember how many I had (all I know is I was feeling uncomfortable in the wee hours)
I told a boy off for being so "unhygienic" by licking the chocolate off his marshmallow and then using the stick to poke into another marshmallow and probably put the stick in the fondue fountain. He got a shock and turned to his father. Some child ! And the father also one kind!!

Cooking food on a griddle

I left the table to take some photos and then the GM offered to let me into the kitchen to take photos. True to what he said, it wasn't even hot or greasy in there. He then told me about how the filter system works and said "well, if you're ready to take over the restaurant also can". I looked at him and joked with him, I can't manage a business I only know how to eat. Haha! Should have asked him to look at my tummy - like I'm going to pop this year and you think I got time.
Anyway, it was really nice of him to ask another chef to do a 360deg turn for me to see. It was only when he passed me his namecard, I realised he was the Mr Jason Oei I was emailing to when I made some enquiries.


Food aside, we presented mom with her card (will be posted later on the 14th). And then I gave her her SPA voucher while brother and sister gave her the Jean Yip makeover voucher. More photos will be uploaded in the KodakGallery.
Girl today then sang the full song :

"Happy Mother's Day to you(smooch smooch)
{- ps she didn't mimich the smooch sound the night before}
Happy Mother's Day to you(smooch smooch)
I love you, dear mummy
Happy Mother's Day to you "

She enjoyed herself, looking at herself in the mirror and making funny faces. Mom said food was so-so.
Later on, another guy came to check with us how many had the meal we said 6 adults (coz the guy told us girl dines free) but the waiter still wrote 6 adults, 1 child. We then sought clarification from the guy who told brother that. Then this time, the guy said "yes girl pay". He then carried her out from her chair to do measurement, this time he said something different that girl reaches his belt when earlier was shorter. Sister made a remark "she suddenly grew taller." Mom said she's so small, only coz' she follow daddy who's tall. Then he asked us "do you have a student card to prove her age?" "what student card, she's only 3 years old." We laughed at the way he asked us the question.
Anyway he made some checks with probably the GM and then ok - girl dines free. They better put a height measurement instead of using his belted waist as a guide. Then don't promise us one thing and practice another.
We left the place about 2 hours later. Girl was so upfront in saying "ok. I want to sit in ah-yi's car. " We always have this problem of struggling to bring her home with us after any outing.

Wah piang.. that gu- niang / Couldn't keep her excitement

I cannot take it, my girl is a wimp!

Today, I brought her to Tampines pool alone as she wanted to play on the "slide n mushroom". Since she was so keen on the slide, I gave her the instructions to walk up the stairs herself "be careful the steps are wet"- coz' I cannot rush down in time to 'catch her'.
I waited & waited and thought it must be a long queue. A man was up there with his son and I asked if there was a girl with a bikini there. He nodded yes, when the girl appeared, he mimicked the action "this girl?" I waved "no" and quickly went behind. Just then a maid was carrying her. She was crying "I want mummy.. I want mummy." 2 boys were excitedly narrating to me how she fell and she had a little blood on her knees. Wow! They make good story-teller.
Wah piang ah....ask her to do something simple also can fall down. ?? All the other kids never fall down, she fell! So careless!! Makes me worried that she cannot take care of her ownself - like that I must make sure I live to a ripe long age. I worry she gets bullied.

After that episode, I cuddled her by the pool. At first she didn't want to go back, but after some time she saw the kids playing - she said "yes". So, twice, I brought her up and asked the man (who so happened to be there again) to help me look after her while I went downstairs to 'catch her'. The man was quite helpful by putting her to sit down when he asked if I was ready. Anyway, girl came down the slide twice smiling and laughing. She had soon forgotten about the pain.

We went to the 1m pool after that to "make her swim and not just play with water". Time passes, before we know it we had spent 1hr+ there. Needed to leave as my parking coupon was expiring soon.

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EXCITED GIRL

The card she sponge printed

Words written by Ms Chan but her lip print on it.

My priceless necklace

Usually whenever I pick her up from school, she'll run to me; open up her bag (if she has something to show me) - sometimes telling me "mummy, I got presents. Today is Elliot's birthday" or "mummy I got stickers".
Today she opened up her bag and said "mummy, mummy I make necklace for you", having said so she gave me the necklace and a card.
I only had the time to open up at home late in the night. When I was looking at the card she started singing to me (to the tune of Birthday Song) "Happy Mother's Day to you, Happy Mother's Day to you.." And then she refused to sing. Quite surprised, thought she was smart to make up the songs herself - coz she does make up lyrics and sing at home.
Umm... wonder if next time she'll make cards for me. Ps: I still keep the heart-shaped flower she made for me last year.

I think she sensed I was rather touched by her kind intention, later snuggled up to me and told me softly "mummy my leg pain pain, I want Dora plaster.." knowing that I will give in to her.

Kids R just kids..

My girl never fails to amuse me.

Just today, she told me..
A : Mummy, I want Got (God) to come to my house
M : (feigning ignorance) Got who?
A : Got (God). Jesus. I want Jesus come to my house
M : God is always in our house
A : Mummy, Jesus love me leh.....
M : Aha. Why do you say that?
A : Because Jesus never scold me.
M : (bursts out laughing)

Then she started singing " Jesus Loves me". Everything went well until she sang this part : -
" Jesus loves me this I know for the barber (Bible) tells me so. "
Everytime she sings this part I start laughing. And then she shut me up "mummy keep quiet, I am singing." I can't bear to correct her singing at that time cause it really sounded so cute. I did correct her after some time but she still say it's 'barber'.

Then I tried asking her to say her prayers before she sleeps.
She went : "Hands together, close my eyes. Early in the morning I sing a happy song.. ay no no no."
"Hands together, close my eyes. Thank you Got (God) for asking mummy to buy me cookies; thank you Got (God) for mummy read me book book; thank you Got (God) for mummy give me do painting. Amen. " - this also can pray huh??

* laughs *

Apart from the holy conversations we had, I was giving her her daily lessons. And today I was teaching her on 运动员(athlete). When I was reading a few sentences ending with the two words 比赛 (match) behind. She looked at me and said "mummy, mummy I know this word 比赛, it means nose dirt (and she pretends to dig her nose while giving me that cheeky look )."

Mom's health & how much my mom has done for me/us

Mom's health hasn't been good lately.

Infact friends, who have known me for long, know that mom had kidney failure before; went through haemodialysis for a couple of years; then a kidney transplant in 2000 and although she is given a new lease of life - things hasn't looked good at all.

Through the years, mom has been in and out of hospital more than anyone of us. Should I just say that in a month, she'll only be feeling well for only 7-10 days, the rests of the month she either gets pain here and there; side effects from her medication or worse still she falls sicks easily. Her fever gets high and for a person who has gone through kidney transplant fever is dangerous as it may affect the new kidney or show signs of deteroriation etc..
Infact, after her kidney transplant we thought that her medical checks would only be on her kidneys. We were wrong, she had some eye problems; heart problems and recently she told us her head is very painful. After many checks and CT scans, we found out that there is a cyst in some part of her brain. And there's no way she can remove the cyst. Now as I am typing this, my mom has been feeling sick and feverish for the past week. Her last hospital stay was like a month or so back, and I really don't wish she'll go back again soon.

It's really sad for me because everyone knows that I am very close with my mother. And only when I am a mother myself I finally understood how great my mom is. And how much she has done for us and the love for us is greater than taking care of her health.
Over the years mom painstakingly took care of us; gave us what we need; fed us well. And when we were working , her job didn't end there. She needed to go for haemodialysis 3 times a week. And sadly, we normally have no time to accompany her there. When she feels faint after her dialysis, she still has to struggle to make her way back home . And when we got home, the food is ready.. So much so, everything is done for us we didn't know she wasn't feeling well throughout the day. (and she won't tell us until we keep probing further. Most time she'll put a strong front but when she's really weak.. you can see it)
If you're talking about someone who can really tolerate pain, I must say it's my mother. Even now, my mom even thinks of those who are on dialysis. And she keeps telling us "do you know that when they poke that needle into your arm, it's very painful. The pain is beyond description." We wouldn't really know and I guess we don't want to know. But if she can say it's painful, it must be 20X painful for anyone of us to take.

Now then I understood how much she loved me. Despite her tiredness, she'll still wait for me early in the morning or late in the night when I return and follow me to the taxi whenever I had to fly- be it day, afternoon or night. She'll drag herself out of bed and pray to Goddess of Mercy for me. Making sure that the big joss stick continues to burn, and when it finishes she burns another one (if it's a 13 hours flight). She'll burn until the time I touch down. I guess it must be the grace of God and her Goddess of Mercy who were protecting me all those years ( I was lucky I never encountered earthquake in Japan or SFO before; on the day we left we saw some people running in the streets in Jakarta - which we found out later it was the riot way back in 1999??; after I came back from Karachi, there was a bomb set off somewhere, Sep 11- I almost changed to a States flight but decided to hold onto my London flight. Those are just on flights alone. I'm a sightseeing freak, I'll train to different parts of the country and so far no danger. Although I frightened my hubby - then boyfriend and mom for taking a plane on my own to another part in Turkey.Haha!)

Now that I have a girl, she'll want to help me out by helping to take care of my girl. She quoted "not that I want to snatch your daughter away from you but I want you to rest and enjoy couple moments with your husband." Who would do that? Nobody has offered to help me in such great lengths as my mom. Girl also sometimes keeps insisting to stay with mom, but I had to drag her home coz' it'll tire mom out. Then mom goes soft but in the end, I still bring her home with me.

How can I ever repay what my mom has done for me? Is God going to reward my mom for all the good things she has done for us. I only pray for her good health, I would want her to enjoy as much as she can now that she's old, and not to use the time to nurse her health.

Decent baby2

Baby2 is so decent, Wee Chee until now still can't scan the gender of Baby2. Today she tried and tried for a longer time turning and twisting the transducer probe - at some time kept tickling the navel. I was giggling away.
" Stubborn baby, kept covering the genital part," she said
At some time we were laughing at Baby2, he/she was moving the hands behind the head, go to the ears and the front, Baby2 did the same motion twice. What's amazing is the fingers (bones) I can see.
When I got back home, hubby asked. Said can't see, never co-operate. Then he commented "so stubborn like Athena, must be a girl." Secretly I'm wishing it's going to be a girl, though I want a boy. Nah.. I think I'll be much happier with a girl.

Weight now : 60.5kg (and I was 64.5kg when I was 38 weeks preggie with girl). 4 more kg to my targetted and I'm not even half way through my pregnancy. Argh!!
Click here to see on baby's development

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Having waited 1 1/2hrs in the clinic, I had to quickly hit the gym before going for my lunch. Actually I was already famished but I don't care since I'm so keen in going to gym today, I had better do so.
What can I say, I haven't been to gym since I found out I was preggie.(Yah... not with the overtly conscious gynae I have and the conservative & overtly protective mother I have. Today secretly went to gym without mom's knowledge).
Although I haven't been gyming, I have been swimming. But it really feels good when I get to perspire during my workout. And mind you, I was doing very slow on the elliptical trainer & threadmill - spending 40 minutes exercising.

Baby moved !

I actually felt baby move last night.

Perhaps baby was all the while moving coz' I thought I felt some fluttering movements a month or two back. But last night I felt the baby move. Hubby who was almost in dreamland was woken up by me when I told him that. Immediately he turned over to feel the baby and he told our little girl (who's - unfortunately- still sleeping with us in the same room). Our girl didn't care much at that time coz' she wanted me to give her my full attention.

" I Surrender! "

I commented to hubby a few nights before that our little girl sleeps just like me - with both hands up.

Yesterday afternoon while the daddy and girl were taking their afternoon nap, I chanced upon the two of them with their hands up - saying "I Surrender!" Haha! We are all criminals.

Clingy girl / Met my girlfriend

Girl had been sulking to me early this morning when I asked her to wake up. On the way to school, she kept telling me she "don't like school, don't want to go school."

When I brought her in, she didn't want to co-operate with Teacher Mumta for routine body checks. And then she started clinging onto me.

Infact, this morning I was also a little sulking coz' I had to wake up early- which I haven't done so for a long long time (about close to 3 weeks). And I was so used to having her around the house, I have to try to get used to it myself. Consolation : she wants to stay over at Tampines tonight, so I can wake up later tomorrow.

I didn't stay long as it will only make her cry. So I made a hasty exit into the lift after seeing that she wasn't crying. At mom's place, which I didn't stay long, I passed her girl's medication.

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I had made arrangements to meet Alyse (who lives just the opposite block) , my ex-team girl, as she needed to pass me girl's plasters. It's very kind of her to get me *gasp* 14 boxes of a variety of plasters - Dora, Sesame Street, Spongebob and Barbie from LA. I've run low on the plasters which I bought last October. And cruel Aunty Alyse said "I make sure the next time I see your girl, I push her down so she can get to use the plasters". But thank you very much Alyse!! Thanks to Alyse for the cute Strawberry Shortcake bag too! I'm sure my girl will like it.

We chat for about an hour on our ex-team mates and then she needed to go for her appointment.

Oh yes! Before I forget, my girlfriend showed me some branded children clothes she bought from US. She also sells branded bags. She is able to help you get branded bags at a fraction of the price, when she helps you shop for your specific brand model. Well, you can check her here.

The long weekend is finally over!

We didn't do much except to vegetate at home during the long weekend, going to nearby Punggol Plaza for meals. Boring place but if we need that break, it's a good place to just "walk the time away".
Before we left PPlaza for home, girl insisted on buying the "egg-egg" (non spicy otak) from the "uncle outside". Needless to say she couldn't wait and was already eating one on her way to the car. And the moment we got back home, she sat herself down at the dining table and made herself comfortable.

Monday (1st May) we finally brought out her out to the pool, after we missed the chance the day before. Hubby was still hoping that she'll change her mind about the "swim" and kept telling her "look, it's going to rain. Can daddy bring you elsewhere?" "Ok, I want to go Wild Wild Wet!" (Ps. Wild Wild Wet is a waterpark in Singapore) I burst out laughing.
We finally made a dash out of the house. Actually the moment we stepped out of the car at Hougang, it did start to drizzle. But it cleared awhile later. Daddy & girl went into the pool while I was filming them. I was quite surprised when a lifeguard told me that filming is not allowed. And there's a signage outside. Huh? Well, anyway I didn't intend to take long and wanted to jump into the pool myself, so I shut the camera; apologized and left the bag in the locker. And joined them in the water.Scardy cat (girl) was so afraid of being alone. Perhaps she had too long break away from the pool.

Click here for pool

We left the pool for dinner outside. Girl was complaining she's tired, hubby said "yes! She must be tired after the swim." I answered him "what swim? She didn't swim, we swam and pushed her. We should be the ones feeling tired." We then left for home close to 8pm.

To think that she complained she was tired. At home she was so energetic and was watching VCDs and then she turned on the Yoga CD by Wai Lana. And started doing it. Quite hilarious, and to think that she thought she was really exercising.
Click here for Yoga Video 1
Click here for Yoga Video 2

My eyes couldn't open and it's time for dreamland.

Alexandra's Birthday party on 23rd April

Waiting for us to get ready
Having some fun posing for me
Could see the excited look on my girl's face since last night. And this morning, she was even more excited. She reminded me to bring the birthday present for "that Ale.. dunno what's her name girl". Quite poor thing my girl don't get invited to many birthday parties. (which explains why I brought my video camera along.)

Mainly her friends are her classmates, and they only do a simple celebration in school.I remember when I approached Mrs Wong last year if they allowed Pinatas in school, she at first reacted to "what's that" and then said "no, coz' we are afraid of the danger" although I assured her that nowadays Pinatas have those pull string kinds not the 'whack till it opens' kind. So any birthday party that she's been invited to - MUST GO!!

I shan't say much, just view the photos and some video links :
- Art & Craft
- Limbo Rock
- Birthday song (look out for the birthday girl's defensive action)
- Getting her cake (after a long long time..)
- Eating her cake
- Pinata
- Post-party


Ps. I frightened the shit out of some people inc. Angeline, when I stood on a chair to tape the Pinata scene. I heard "Ahurrr....."behind me. Haha! With Athena, I actually ran after a bus once; with my mother and some people in the bus-stop panicking for me. Now with No2 is this! Hee!

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Some notes on her behaviour
1. Too timid
2. Too shy
3. At home naughty like dunno what.. outside behaved like an angel.
4. Needs alot of nudging
5. Scardy cat. Very slow - sure lose out.

The reasons why I'm saying this, is through my observations during the party
She is way too timid and shy. All the other kids could be so independent and join in the games and queue up for things. She doesn't, she gets so clingy. I don't understand what she's afraid of? Obviously, she didn't take after me.
When you queue, you are supposed to move forward. I don't know why she simply stood there, all the other kids from behind went forward. I had to push her.. then to the bystanders - they may think I'm "yao gui (in dialect)" or "greedy". She wanted to join to see the cake, and she had the advantage as she was around there when the table was set up. She would have stood there right infront of the table. But she dare not move forward until all the kids come in. And then she start screaming "I want to see, I want to see.." Stupid right?? When getting the cake she waited quite a long time to get her cake until the lady noticed she had been there.. gave it to her. And I was the only parent to stand with a kid, make me so "yao gui". But then seeing how she enjoyed the cake made me happy.
Pinata time, I had to ask hubby to help her. Cause knowing that "gu niang" girl very slow, sure will not get anything. And you know all the kids will rough it out; take it away from her. And what will she do?? She'll just stand there and then look at us pathetically, not fighting back.
Hubby made the remark "bring her go party, she get bullied."Well, I reminded him about what Master Tan said about her. "No guts, needs alot of pushing from the parents." As her mother, it pains my heart to see her disappointed look or when she gets bullied. But what can I do? A few times I stood up for her and scolded the other children when she was bullied outside.. but I'm not with her every minute; every hour.
Needless to say, she didn't get as much goodies as the other kids. But how am I suppose to answer her? Be frank with her and tell her "you stupid, you slow??" I can't.. it may hurt her feelings. So just had to find other excuse to make her feel better. And we wanted to make up to her by buying her titbits from supermarket.

Crazy computer

Yesterday, for a short while, I noticed my Blogger page was fully loaded. Which means that I can load pictures in, align my pages neatly and most importantly link up to other websites.

I was not able to do so for a long time, which explains why sometimes my blogs are dated way back (coz' I needed to go over to brother's computer to load pics in etc..)

Quickly took the opportunity to load and complete my blogs. I just hope it remains this way forever. It's really very inconvenient for me.

Such a holy holy girl

Last night, was reading to her Sleeping Beauty. When she suddenly looked at the picture (of baby and the Queen/King and fairies around her) in a different perspective.

Her eyes lit up and she looked at me "mummy, mummy you see baby Jesus". Haha!

Then, this morning. She woke up and she started singing to me
"This is the day, This is the day that the Lord have made..........."

I wonder if the rest of the day, she'll spring surprises on me again. Eg. like sometimes out of the blue she'll start saying grace before her meals.