The sun has made one round and it’s time for the cleaning of tombs aka niche. Aetos were called to direct traffic, this year we were directed to a carpark even further away. Walked under the hot sun to the columbarium. 🥵 no joke man! I was walking even slower coz every minute under the sun (with the umbrella) aka oven heat made my feet melt to the ground and I couldn’t walk fast.
Honestly speaking, usually my SIL and J will do all the 拜拜 preparations all these years. I wouldn’t even know what to do, what to buy.
Observed other families, all come in big family so 热闹. When I was younger we had to 七早八早 go to the cemetery. Then there were definitely more than 6 people. I don’t think I did much there, I was pretty useless 😂 maybe just help to put things down as instructed by the adults. Anyway I’m just glad we don’t have to wake up before the sun rises to go to the columbarium now. Since both in-laws passed, the ones that usually go down is just 6 of us. Our family usually come in full force, SIL and J. Son J sometimes come along; sometimes don’t. This time alone only 5 of us as Che-che already made arrangements to meet her friend. E and L don’t go, maybe only once or twice they went to the temple (?). It’s the same when we have to go to the 神台 in the temple. So yah, the grandkids paying respect to in-laws are just mainly 2 or 3 of them that’s it.
That got me thinking when I passed what I would want my kids / family do with me. Long time ago I said I like 富贵Nirvana where A is in. Lovely place, chanting music playing. But that condo resting place is damn expensive. My girls will probably not be bothered to do all these stuffs then pay money for what? Then they will long forget their mother. Randomly in the car, I blurted out to hubby and lil’ one. When I die, just throw me inland. Don’t throw me in sea. Yucks! Altho when I die I wouldn’t know if they’ll throw my ashes into the drain.
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