Saturday, August 6, 2022

Anxiety

I suppose both my girls have anxiety issues when it comes to exams. Che-che also hates it when she has to go for piano exams, clams up and ..... If only there's no examinations they often tell me. But it's really not possible, there's always a form of test everywhere we go, even for job interviews! 

When lil' one brought up to me that she's nervous during examinations and then she forgets what she's learnt I started to panic myself. OMG! Her finals are approaching soon. Though I usually complain that she talks alot, I'm glad that she shared this with me. Che-che doesn't tell me anything coz she likes to keep everything to herself. Silence doesn't mean everything is well with her, I'm sure she must be anxious often too coz when I tried to calm lil' one, she overheard and commented "you think it's so easy to calm down? To not feel anxious?" Honestly, she isn't wrong. Her mother has anxiety issues too! Even up to this date. There is a reason too why I tend to be over anxious when I have too many things on my plate; there's a reason too why I know I cannot multi-task if I need to do serious studying and being a homemaker. There's a reason too when I set too high a standard on myself and I get anxious when I fail or underperformed in my task.     

When I was a student 3 decades ago 
I used to have tension headaches before exams. The doctor will always give me ponstan and antacid coz panadol won't help me anymore. I perform better in school during normal school work but results shows a slight difference. 
30 years ago when ADHD or mental health is unheard of. If a child don't score, the child gets blamed for being stupid. 

Moving with times
Times have definitely changed, there's a plethora of information out there now for us to understand better; for us to help our children. We hope to make things a little better for our children.      

Yes, supporting mental health is important. Afterall, I wouldn't want healthy children to suddenly have a crack and go berserk. The RGS neighbour is a good example, really sad.  

But we can be contradictory at times too
Unfortunately in this society where people still judge salary earned equals to success, sometimes as parents we also wish our kids can do well for themselves. 
In conclusion, I think we should relocate to a non highly competitive country like Canada or Sweden or Finland or perhaps Tibet.   

Some stuffs I found online, hoping to help my children  
A Japanese method to relax in 5 min 
https://youtu.be/m3-O7gPsQK0

After watching this, your brain will not be the same/Lara Boyd
https://youtu.be/LNHBMFCzznE

Simple trick to stop negative thoughts
https://youtu.be/tmRVz7baXG8

The 5 minute MIND EXERCISE that will Change your life
https://youtu.be/oo5caGP5dAE

Brainwash yourself in 21 days for success
https://youtu.be/Z1SdDubmFII

SOUNDS
Brain healing sounds : healed Millions already
https://youtu.be/CfkhbRCNorg

INSTANT RESULTS : 100% pure alpha brain waves for study, meditation, focus, intelligence
https://youtu.be/fyBuKsmKew4

Alpha waves / improve your memory / Super intelligence
https://youtu.be/GEgSBuYlSoA

Classical music for brain power - Mozart effect
https://youtu.be/7JmprpRIsEY

IQ Increase - improve cognitive processing with brainwave entertainment - intelligence booster 
https://youtu.be/p2qlwAwnMo0

Music for effective studying 
https://youtu.be/RX_Mzfj4N5k

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